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Men’s Biggest First Date Complaints Revealed

According to Modern Day Matchmaker, men have some complaints about you ladies out there in the dating world. So be honest ladies, which offenses are you guilty of doing?

• Being Late With No Warning

• Dressing Inappropriately

• Poor Eye Contact and Fake Smiles

• Phone Addictions

• Poor Manners

• Talking About Your Ex

Source: Men Reveal 7 Biggest First Date Complaints

Relationship TMI: Is There Such a Thing?

I've often heard people say that your romantic partner should be your best friend, and I tend to agree. However, I'm beginning to think the philosophy has its pitfalls. Or maybe it's just the way I view BFF-ships that's flawed.

I've always thought of a best friend as someone you tell pretty much everything, and admittedly for me, "everything" may very well include a whole lotta TMI. Dreams, desires, secrets, embarrassments, bedroom discussions, ailments, insignificant or life-altering — no subject is off limits with my best gal pal. And I can't seem to turn off my unfiltered personality with my best guy, either. (I think I dubbed him "Rico" in an earlier post, so we'll stick with that.)

Rico and I were close friends for a few years before we ever started deucing it, so by the time we added the love element, he already knew the darkest secrets of my past, my history with men and every dysfunctional thing about my family and upbringing. The fact that he loves me despite my imperfections and confessions, makes me love him more. Lately, though, I've been thinking I should probably keep a few things to myself.

Most recently, I mentioned to Rico that a guy I used to date off-and-on said he'd found a woman who "might be the one." (How did this even come up, you ask? Here's the simplified story: Old Guy — who Rico has always known about — and I are in the same organization and the organization recently went on weekend trip out of town. Rico called one night while I was on the trip and asked what the group was discussing. I divulged.) Rico, has since been asking me how I felt about Old Guy having a new boo. The truth is, I'm cool with it. There's a reason Old Guy and I didn't work out; I accepted that a long time ago. But I'm beginning to suspect that Rico is not fully convinced, although I've given him no reason not to believe me, other than my mentioning it to him in the first place. This has me second-guessing my unfiltered ways. Not that Rico has ever judged, criticized or thrown anything in my face. I'm just starting to wonder how my over-sharing might be affecting him. He's shared things with me that I admit have made me squirm a little, but I'd still rather know than be in the dark.

Sound off, Gems: How do you define "best friend"? Does your mate/BFF need to know everything? Is withholding certain info a setup for relationship failure? How do I discern what to share/what to keep to myself?

Dear Gemstones: Guys are fighting over me...

Dear Gemstones,

Hey! So I'm in 24 yrs old two guys are fighting over me (I know.... awesome but yet terrible, lol) One of them, I have known for a long time. We grew up together and we talk all the time. The other I really don't know very well and recently just met him thru mutual friends. Guy #1 and I get along great but Gyu #2 and I really clicked immediately. Now that I am for sure that both guys are interested in me, I am not sure what to do. Should I date one and dismiss the other and if so, which one? Should I date both – but at what cost as far as issues are concerned?

The main problem is that they both know that the other has feelings for me. Our town is small so people end up in the same places often. When these guys see each other out and about, it usually doesn’t end well. It hasn’t gotten physical but there has been a constant exchange of words.

Please Help!

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Ladies, Is This All You Need To Be Happy?

Recipe For A Happy Wife

Ingredient List:
Love
Honesty
Support
Patience
Respect
Trust
Joy
Faith
Sex

Directions:

1. Begin with love. She’ll want your unconditionally, even on her worst days.
2. Trust in her and the decisions she makes with and for you and herself. No wife wants to feel like you’re suspicious of her thoughts and actions. If you want her trust you must give her yours.
3. Have faith in your marriage and your future together. Not believing in your success as a unite is the fastest way to put a frown on her wife.
4. Share your joy with her and make sure she has her own to share. A healthy relationship needs happiness as much as it needs love. Consider it the oxygen and water she’ll need to survive the hardest of days.

Read the rest of the list at: A Homemade Recipe for A Happy Wife

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Do you think this list is complete or is there something you would like to add? 

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This is where the Gemstones come in. We are a group of 30-something ladies that have experienced many things in life. Some good, some bad but we are all stronger because of those experiences.

We started out encouraging one another and over time our sincere encouragement began to reach others. If you need unbiased and honest advice about a situation we urge you to contact us. You don't have to ponder on things alone.

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