Say What?!: Bad Sex Leads to Bad Beatdown

Girlfriend 'beat up her boyfriend after bad sex left her unsatisfied’

A 24-year-old woman was arrested yesterday for attacking her boyfriend after he climaxed and she did not, a police report alleges.

Raquel Gonzalez lives in Bradenton, Florida with her boyfriend, Esric Davis, 30. Apparently, the two were engaged in intercourse.

When he finished and she did not, Gonzalez allegedly started punching and scratching him around the nose and eyes.

The Manatee County Sheriff’s Office report, obtained by the Smoking Gun, details the alleged attack at the couple’s shared residence on a quiet Florida cul-de-sac.

The violent post-coital attack allegedly occurred after Davis reached orgasm, but Gonzalez did not.
Apparently outraged, she then ‘began hitting and scratching (Davis), causing scratches near his eyes and nose,’ the police report read.

She was arrested yesterday afternoon and charged with felony domestic battery, and remains in the Manatee County jail.

Her bail has not yet been set.

Post-coital attack: Gonzalez lives in this Bradenton, Florida home with her 30-year-old boyfriend, Esric Davis

The angry lover told officers at the scene that Davis was not the only one with scratches, telling them that Davis had nicked her in a desperate attempt to restrain her.

She refused to say anything further after she was read her Miranda rights, the police report said, describing her as ‘belligerent and uncooperative.’

The police report said that alcohol could have been a factor in the alleged attack.

Source:  Girlfriend Raquel Gonzalez ‘beat up her boyfriend after bad sex left her unsatisfied’

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I'm Angry....

...nobody better get in my way.

I'm 30 and trying to live saved.
I'm 30 and trying to start a family.
I'm 30 and trying to find a career I can be proud of having
I'm 30 and not where I thought I would be....

Together, all those things are making me an angry person.

I love God, I really do but it seems like I am the only one in my age group that doesn't want to live for the things of this world. This makes for some very lonely days and nights and situations where I find myself backsliding badly. I have my husband but what about girlfriend time. I don't need to curse to have a conversations, I don't want to attend secular concerts and events, and I like to do things that uplift people. Good clean fun.

When I was younger the only things I really wanted in life was to be a wife and mom. I'm a wife but due to infertility issues outside of my control my blessing of being a mother is delayed (I'm praying that it's not denied). It seems that everyday someone new in my life is pregnant - talk about a slap in the face. I try to be truly happy for them but I'm angry - angry at myself. Then listening to parents complain about their children drives me insane - people do not appreciate what they have until it is taken from them. I have to bite my tongue and walk away from those conversations.

For 6+ years I have been stuck in this glass ceiling job. There is nowhere to go and the worst part is that I don't even want to be in this field. I took the job out of desperation and fear of not being able to pay my bills. Now I feel stuck. I am trying to get back into the field in which I went to school for but in this economy jobs are hard to obtain. I thought about doing my own thing but I am clueless about what I can do well enough to get paid for doing. I feel lost.

All of this contributes to me not being where I thought I would be in life at age 30. That alone is enough to make me want to punch a wall. Still, I try to focus on my blessings that the things that are going well in my life. It's hard but it is something that I must do in order to maintain my sanity. At the end of the day I still find myself angry. Things need to change soon - I must get to work. Please pray for me.

Love Always, Your Untitled Love

Years ago at an office party, my then-supervisor came in with a man I assumed was her significant other. But when she introduced him as “my friend Matt,” I figured I’d assumed wrong. Mere days after that office party, my 40-something supervisor came to work sporting an engagement ring from Matt. That sequence of events had me all confused: Why had she introduced him as her “friend” when he was clearly something more? I decided then that I was not a fan of anyone labeling a significant other "friend." 

At the time, I was young and in love, and anyone who knew me knew that “Danny” was my boyfriend — not my friend, not some title-less guy who accompanied me places. He was my boyfriend, unmistakably.

Fast forward a decade. Danny’s a thing of the past and I'm head of heels in love with "Rico," my heart of a little over a year. We're not engaged, married or even co-habitating, but by all accounts we're in a relationship. The passion is there, the love is there, the friendship is there, the exclusivity is there, the long-term potential is there. There's only one problem: I cannot bring myself to refer to him as my boyfriend. And "friend," as my former supervisor used for her man, is definitely not a solution to my problem.

When I introduce him to friends and family, he's Rico; he's not "my boyfriend Rico" or any other *insert label* Rico. He's just Rico. The crazy thing is, I'd never had a problem with the word "boyfriend" before now. I don't know if it's our ages — I'm 30 and he's pushing 40 — that make the terms "girlfriend" and "boyfriend" seem odd, or if it's my reluctance to put what he and I share into a neatly labeled box. Or could it be the tiny voice in the back of my 30-year-old mind that begs the question: What title really matters besides "fiance/fiancee" or "husband/wife"? Sure, I like the parameters of our relationship to be clearly defined between us. When people ask if I have a boyfriend, I say yes and we conduct ourselves accordingly. But then again, does it really matter what people know? I love the private pet names we have for each other and the small public displays of affection. I just don't know how I'd feel if he were to ever say "girlfriend."

What do you think, Gems? What could be a reason for my sudden disdain for "boyfriend/girlfriend"? Do you have a similar issue with those titles?

*Diamond*

Dear Gemstones: Sexually Unsatisfied

Dear Gemstones,

My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. Until a year ago our sex life was hot and heavy. We always were creative in the bedroom and both were very satisfied with the sex life. In the last year the sex with my husband has hit rock bottom. No more spontaneous sex, no "creativity" with the sex, and he only last about 15 good minutes. We have talked about the problem and his answer is I should be more patient with him. Well my patience has about ran out. I even suggested he go see a doctor to make sure nothing medical is going on. His ego has not allowed him to make the appointment. I do have toys that I use to please myself but I didn't marry a toy... I want my husband. I don't want our lack of sex to end our marriage, but I am not sure if I can continue in a marriage when I am not pleased sexually.

Please help!!
Sexually Unsatisfied



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I came across an amazing workbook earlier this year that a woman created to say goodbye the 2011 and prepare for 2012. I will admit I did not fully use it, but wish I had put more effort into using it.

Yesterday I noticed she, Susannah Conway, posted her 2013 version. I decided to share it with you all. I hope you all find it helpful! This years workbook includes a monthly planner.

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